“Slippery when wet” and “wet floor sign” are quite literally the best ways to describe Katherine. For those of you that don’t know, that’s what I call my vagina. The reason I give her these descriptions is because she honestly is like a dripping tap, quite literally. So much so that I felt the need to seek medical advice from 2 different sources. They both told me that what I am experiencing, is actually not uncommon or anything to be worried about, provided it doesn’t smell or itch.
So, I took what they said and went my merry way. Now for someone who doesn’t wear panties (I find them extremely uncomfortable), this can be a somewhat messy lifestyle choice. So, I decided to take it upon myself to do some research on how to live with such a “mess”. This was all surface research and I figured I had gathered enough information to live through my lifestyle choice comfortably. I then thought the “too wet” topic was out of the way, till I was in a situation with a friend where my body was reacting to his physical touch, but my mind was telling me “You don’t want this”. He obviously took it the complete opposite way (as most straight men would) because why would you be so wet, if it’s not what you want? I then decided to post on twitter “Just because I’m wet, doesn’t mean I wanna have sex”. The responses were completely astounding and this led to more research in order to help both men and women understand the complexities of the female anatomy.
Firstly, one needs to understand that it’s not just when one is aroused that a female produces vaginal lubrication. This vaginal lubrication is often known as discharge. Discharge is a necessary “evil”. It can be a nuisance to deal with but it’s needed for so many aspects that fundamentally lead to having a “strong” and healthy vagina. There are self-cleaning and self-defensive purposes for discharge. It naturally:
- Keeps vaginal tissues protected like saliva in your mouth or tears in your eyes.
- Cleans-out dirt, bacteria, and dead cells to keep it clean.
- Helps produce cervical mucus that helps sperm reach the egg so you can get pregnant.
These are all functions that make your vaginal environment a healthy one. So, this then leads to the question of how one will know what kind of wetness they’re dealing with when encountered?
Ladies, it’s very important to understand where you are at in your menstrual cycle and this can be determined by the consistency and colour of your discharge. This change occurs with hormonal changes. Cervical mucus (stretchy and clear like egg-whites) occurs around a week before menstruation.
After you ovulate your discharge then tends to become white and thicker like lotion until you reach menstruation.
But this may vary, depending on the person. In teenage years, due to hormonal imbalance, the discharge may be thinner than the average person and in adult, it may be significantly lighter.
Be sure to monitor the odour, texture, colour and comfort levels. These are important in understanding where your body is at. You will know when something is off/not right when it smells like fish/yeast, when it is itchy or gives a burning sensation. If it is an unusual cottage cheese or foamy consistency see a doctor.
And if it is an off yellow, green, brown, red or even pink colour, monitor how long it lasts and after 2 days, get it checked out!
So, after all of these uncomfortable to look at images, let’s get down to when a chikita is wet for arousal.
Now as I mentioned earlier, Katherine is on some extra wet intensity trip. If that’s even a thing. She is more wet than she ever is dry. This is especially heightened after I’ve had sex. Once my body gets a taste of that good good, it seems to constantly excrete more and more juices in anticipation of getting more. This can be somewhat bothersome as my body is preparing for something that very well could be only coming in a few months.
Based on the fact that my body will most probably do this until I hit menopause, I have decided to fully embrace it. Getting wet is an essential part to enjoyable sex but it also lets me know that things are going well down there as it’s doing what needs to be done. But besides the health aspects attached to being wet, there are also valid reasons as to why and how one gets wet during arousal.
Vaginal lubrication is triggered by the blood that flows toward the genitals during arousal. However, it varies from person to person based on how often and how long you’re stimulated. Some people are easily excited and get wet a lot more naturally depending on how often you get turned on, others require a bit more attention to get you there and this can be done through foreplay (but that’s something we will unpack separately on another article). This does not indicate abnormality however. Some women don’t produce natural lubrication and need a bit of helping through the use of lube, while others can produce so much that it can actually reduce sensation. If you’re a little too wet and would like to add some friction to the mix, try a non-lubricated condom. When one is wet and arousal is the cause, your wetness can look very similar to how it looks a week before menstruation as mentioned above. It is stretchy, clear and odourless.
The amount of lubrication one produces can be affected by your hormones. Women who have higher natural levels of oestrogen, such as young women, tend to lubricate more easily and in greater amounts than women who have lower levels of oestrogen. Certain medicine/mood enhancing drugs you may be taking may also lead to less lubrication. Just as allergy medicines can dry up your vag thanks to your mucus membranes, even weed can do the same (this is something that waterfall Katherine learnt the hard way). There’s even a name for it, cotton phase/vag just like cotton mouth.
I think it’s important for both men and women to be able to recognize when and why a woman may be wet as well as communication on both sides. Men find themselves in tricky situations that may get them in trouble in the long run purely based on lack of knowledge of the female body as well as lack of communication. I hope this gives you a bit more of an idea of how to identify when a woman is aroused and ready. Because it’s quite possible that even when she’s physically aroused and responding as a result, but doesn’t really want you inside her. Be sure!
Do you have problems with lubrication production? Is it high or low?
Have you ever been wet, and not want to have sex?
As a man, are you sure when a woman is aroused?
2 Comments
This is some serious insight 🙌🌻🌙… A woman can be perfectly normal and
healthy and experience “arousal nonconcordance,” where the behavior of her genitals (being wet or dry) may not match her mental experience (feeling turned on or not). And its been assumed that because men experience spontaneous, out-of-the-blue
desire for sex, women should also want sex spontaneously. Again it turns out that’s true sometimes, but not necessarily. A woman can be
perfectly normal and healthy and never experience spontaneous sexual desire. Instead,
she may experience “responsive” desire, in which her desire emerges only in a highly
erotic context. That’s just some of the insight I’ve got from reading your article 🌻… We men seriously need to know a woman’s body coz it’s clear we aren’t glued up.
Hi Lindi, thank you for a very informative article. The discharge and the way it changes throughout the cycle made it that much easier to know when my Kitty is healthy or not.
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